A Letter to the Sexes

About the opposite sex.

Dear Men,
Why do you pretend you don't know what women want? The only reason you can't understand them is because you don't want to. A woman wants to be treated with the same respect you give your mother. She wants to know she can trust you and that you'll be there for her. Now men I know how you think and I know that anytime you see a good looking woman you immediately size her up as a sexual mate. You wonder what she looks like naked and how she is in bed. Sadly for you generally she doesn't think the same way about you. Just because you find her attractive doesn't mean she feels the same back. I know that as men we naturally have an ego and assume that any girl that gives us the time of day must want to have sex with us, they don't. It is possible for a girl to be your friend and have no sexual desire for you. Don't discredit this, this isn't a bad thing. Being friends with women doesn't make you less of a man, it actually makes you a much more well rounded person. You can start to better understand women and help you in your dating life. But a very important thing to remember is, if you ask a girl on a date and she gives you an obvious BS excuse, that is her way of trying to nicely turn you down. I know it seems cryptic but if she tells you she's "taking a break from dating until she gets her life straight" or some other excuse that means she still wants to be your friend. She has tried to let you down easily and not screaming NO and then laughing in your face. Take this how it was meant, she values your friendship enough to not want to be mean about it. Respect her decision and if you were meant to be together she'll come around to it eventually. But also remember that if you have feelings for a girl and you never flat out tell her, it's your own damn fault if nothing ever comes of it.

Now to address another part of man's ever expanding ego. When you've dated a woman and you break it off don't assume she must be pining to get back together with you. Every man has this ego built up inside him that no girl he's ever dated can actually be over him. She is. Hate to burst that bubble of yours but it is possible for someone to move on from you and not look back. Let it go and move on yourself, you'll be better for it.

Oh and men I hate to break it to you but every gay man you meet does not want to rape you. You don't need to feel threatened by him, if you're not homosexual he can't press a magic button and turn you. You don't need to treat homosexuals with a sense of fear, they are just another human being that should be respected.


Dear Women,
Please try and remember that in general men communicate with each other very plain and directly. If you want to get your point across to them you're better off being blunt. Now being blunt does not mean being cruel, it just means not hiding behind flowery words. Let a man down nicely means letting him down and not stringing him along hoping that he'll give up eventually, he wont.

How should a man treat you once you've said yes? Simply one word comes to mind, respect. He should respect you like he respects his mother. I'm not trying to get into some Oedipus complex, just respect. Never allow a man to make you feel inferior or less than you are.

Be warned of the manly ego. You know that nice guy you just met? What did you think of when you met him? I can tell you what he thought of you, he wondered what you looked like naked or how you were in bed. Go into every situation with that in mind, he isn't thinking that every moment he's with you but he has thought it. Don't be offended or disgusted he can't help it, it's natural instinct. Just be aware of your actions around him as he may misconstrue them as sexual advances.

Have you broken it off with a man but still wish to be his friend? Keep one thing in mind, that ego of his tells him your not over him. You just want to go back to being friends and he may want to be your friend too. But in the back of his mind he'll be wondering if you secretly want him back.

Another very important thing I'd like to get across to you ladies. Are you dating a man that has bad habits? Does he drink a little too much? Does he tend to be lazy? Are you convinced that with time he'll change his bad ways? He wont. No matter how much you harp him and no matter how much you think you can fix him, you can't. This is true with anyone, if someone has a bad habit they will not change unless they want to. They have to truly want to change their ways and nothing you say can do anything about it.

On one last note, if you walk around with your cleavage showing please don't act offended when a man stares at them, he can't help it. I know you feel the right to wear what ever you want but be aware of the reaction it will get.

Dear Hermaphrodites,
I got nothing, keep doing what you're doing.